If you don’t ask, there’s no answer.
If you ask, at least there’s a chance for a yes.
It’s painful, it’s not fun, it’s not what I want to be doing on my Friday afternoon. But I did it, it was worth it, and now there’s joy in the house. No exaggeration: joy. Bonus: I made someone else happy–even happier than I am. But it’s hard, it’s work, it’s no fun.
But you have to ask. You have to actually open your mouth and say the words so the other party hears and decides. Then you wait patiently and say nothing.